What No One Tells You About Postpartum: You Don't Need to Bounce Back

The Wisdom of Lying-In

Many cultures practice what's known as a "lying-in" period-typically forty days after birth-where new mothers focus exclusively on recovery and bonding with their baby. During this time, they're nourished with healing foods, relieved of household duties, and supported by family and community. There's a powerful saying that "the first forty days postpartum determines a woman's next forty years." This acknowledges that how a mother is cared for during this sacred time can have profound impacts on her long-term health and wellbeing.

Why Rest and Recovery Matter

Physically, your body undergoes tremendous changes during the postpartum period. Your uterus is shrinking from the size of a watermelon back to the size of a pear, hormone levels are dramatically shifting, and if you had a vaginal birth, tissue is healing. If you had a cesarean birth, you're recovering from major surgery. Your body is establishing milk production if you're breastfeeding, and your pelvic floor is rebuilding strength. Beyond the physical, you're adjusting to dramatic sleep disruption, processing your birth experience, developing a relationship with your baby, and navigating a new identity as a mother or expanding your motherhood role. Rushing this recovery process doesn't serve you or your baby.

Preparing for Your Fourth Trimester

Before Baby Arrives:

Define your goals - How do you want to feel during this time? What matters most to you in the early weeks with your baby?

Identify your support network - Who can you call when you need help? Make a contact list of those who've offered support.
Consider outside help - Cleaning service, meal delivery, postpartum doula, grocery delivery.
Create a visitor protocol - Decide when you'll welcome visitors and designate someone to manage visit scheduling.
Prepare a help list - Specific tasks visitors can do. Post it somewhere visible. Include simple tasks like walking pets, loading the dishwasher, or holding baby while you shower.

During Your Fourth Trimester:
Prioritize rest - Sleep when baby sleeps.
Focus on nutrition - Eat nourishing, easily digestible foods.
Minimize stress - Limit media and be selective about visitors.
Bond with your baby - Enjoy skin-to-skin and learn your baby's cues.

Embracing a New Mindset

"Bouncing back" is a harmful myth. You're not returning to your pre-baby self-you're transforming. This transformation deserves time and care. The investment you make in yourself during these first forty days can indeed influence your wellbeing for years to come. By prioritizing rest, nourishment, and bonding now, you're laying the groundwork for a healthier future for both you and your baby. Your fourth trimester isn't about bouncing back-it's about gently moving forward with the care and support you deserve.

Need Support in the Fourth Trimester?

If you're preparing for life with a newborn or currently navigating those early weeks, you're not alone. At Newby Nurturing, we offer compassionate postpartum doula support, overnight care, and lactation guidance to help you rest, heal, and feel confident in your new role. Let’s chat about how we can support your journey-book your free 15-minute consult today. You deserve to be nurtured too.

What a Postpartum Doula Does Not Do: Understanding the Boundaries of Postpartum Support

We’re Not Medical Professionals

Postpartum doulas provide amazing emotional and practical support, but we’re not medical providers. That means:

– We can’t give medical advice or diagnoses
– We don’t prescribe medications
– We’re not a substitute for your doctor or midwife
– We don’t make medical decisions for you or your baby

We do keep an eye out for things that might need medical attention and will always encourage you to check in with your provider if something doesn’t seem right.

We’re Not House Cleaners

We help keep your space feeling calm and manageable, but deep cleaning isn’t in our job description. That means:

– We don’t do heavy-duty cleaning (think scrubbing floors or cleaning bathrooms)
– We won’t handle laundry for the whole household – but we might wash and fold a load of baby clothes
– We don’t reorganize your kitchen or tackle big home projects

What we do is tidy up, wash bottles, prep simple meals, and help create a cozy, functional space for you and your baby.

We’re Not Nannies or Babysitters

While we help with newborn care – and may absolutely take over so you can rest – our focus is really on you – supporting and guiding you as you find your rhythm. That means:

– We work alongside you rather than taking over
– We’re here to help you learn, not just do things for you
– We’re focused on the whole family’s adjustment, not just the baby

Our goal is to build your confidence, not to replace you.

We Don’t Offer Full-Time Sibling Care

We love helping older siblings adjust and can offer ideas for including them in baby care, but:

– We’re not hired to babysit or provide full-time childcare for older kids
– Our attention is centered around the postpartum parent and new baby

If you need dedicated childcare for older siblings, it’s a good idea to line up a babysitter or family help during those early days.

We’re Not On-Call 24/7

Postpartum doulas work during specific, agreed-upon hours:

– We’re not available outside of those times unless arranged in advance
– We don’t provide emergency care
– We keep clear boundaries around our availability so we can show up well-rested and ready to support you

For anything urgent outside of scheduled hours, your doctor or healthcare provider is your best resource.

We Don’t Bring Judgment

This one’s so important. A postpartum doula offers support without judgment:

– We meet you where you are, supporting your unique parenting style
– We’re here to support your choices, not tell you what to do
– We offer evidence-based info, not personal opinions
– We’re your sounding board and your cheerleader, not your critic

Every family is different, and we’re here to help you feel confident and supported, not pressured or second-guessed.

At Newby Nurturing, we offer compassionate, non-judgmental support to help you feel more confident as you care for your baby. Whether you’re needing overnight care, guidance with feeding, or simply someone to walk beside you during the early weeks, we’re here to help. Reach out any time to learn more about how we can support your family.

Celebrating World Doula Week: A Journey of Serving and Supporting Mothers

My love for babies and mothers wasn’t just a passing phase. Shortly after becoming a mother myself, I discovered the beautiful Greek definition of a doula: "a woman who serves." I felt called to this role and knew I had found my dream job.

For the past decade, I’ve had the incredible privilege of serving as a postpartum doula. Each day brings the joy of supporting mothers through their transformative journey into motherhood and breastfeeding. It’s more than a job—it’s a sacred mission of care, compassion, and community.

Where Do We Serve?

Doulas are everywhere-in hospitals, birthing centers, homes, and communities. We support mothers through pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period, providing physical, emotional, and informational support during one of life’s most profound experiences.

Doula Mentoring: Empowering Aspiring and New Doulas

Are you passionate about supporting mothers and interested in becoming a doula? I offer personalized mentoring services to guide aspiring and new doulas. Whether you’re looking to start your journey or enhance your skills, I’m here to support you every step of the way.

Let's Connect

Interested in doula support or mentoring? Click here to learn more about my doula mentoring services.

Looking for a postpartum doula? We proudly serve the Houston and San Antonio, TX, areas. Book a free consultation to learn how we can support your journey.

Happy World Doula Week to all the incredible doulas who pour their hearts into serving mothers!

How Long Should I Book a Postpartum Doula?

My Recommendation

I always suggest starting with at least three consecutive days of support. This gives you a real chance to rest and experience the full benefits of having a doula, rather than just getting through a single night. After three days of solid sleep and hands-on help, most parents notice a big shift in their energy levels, emotional well-being, and confidence in caring for their baby.

How Much Support Do You Need?

Every family is different, but here’s a helpful breakdown:

• First-time parents: 2–12 weeks

• Parents with older kids: 1–8 weeks

• Recovering from a C-section: 3–8 weeks

• Parents of multiples: 4–12 weeks

What a Schedule Might Look Like

Many families start with more frequent support in the first few weeks (3–5 nights per week) and gradually taper down as they get more comfortable (1–2 nights per week).

The Benefits of Ongoing Support

Some families choose to extend support for the first four months, which can help with:

• Establishing healthy sleep habits

• Creating consistent feeding routines

• Building parental confidence

• Easing the transition for the whole family

By the time your baby is around four months old, you’ll likely feel much more settled into your new normal.

Postpartum support isn’t just about getting through the night—it’s an investment in your well-being. The right amount of care can make the difference between simply surviving those early months and truly thriving as a new parent.

Ready to Experience the Benefits of Postpartum Support?

We proudly serve growing families throughout the Houston, San Antonio, and New Braunfels areas with our team of postpartum professionals. Our doulas provide holistic support to your journey into motherhood, ensuring both you and your baby receive the care you need during this transformative time.

Click here to schedule a free consultation and discover how our post
partum services can enhance your fourth trimester experience!

A Reassuring Presence in the Room: The Benefits of a Postpartum Doula

A Sense of Calm in the Unknown

A postpartum doula is more than just a helper - they’re a reassuring presence in the room. Their experienced, compassionate support helps reduce anxiety and brings a sense of calm during those unpredictable moments. When you're feeling overwhelmed, knowing that someone is there to listen, answer your questions, and validate your feelings can make all the difference.

Building Confidence and Trust

In the midst of uncertainty, it’s common for new moms to question their instincts. A doula provides gentle guidance on baby care techniques - from soothing a fussy baby to helping you find the right breastfeeding position - empowering you to trust your maternal intuition. This supportive coaching not only eases the learning curve but also builds lasting confidence in your parenting abilities.

Nurturing Emotional Wellbeing

The postpartum period is a time of significant emotional and physical change. A doula’s caring presence can help ease feelings of isolation and vulnerability by offering empathetic, evidence-based support. Their ability to recognize early signs of postpartum mood disorders and connect you with the right resources is a vital aspect of nurturing your mental health during this transformative phase.

Supporting the Whole Family

A postpartum doula doesn’t just focus on the new mom - they’re there to support the entire family. By guiding partners in bonding with the baby and helping older siblings adjust to their new role, a doula fosters a harmonious family environment where everyone feels cared for and included.

A Lasting Impact

Ultimately, the reassurance and support of a postpartum doula go beyond just easing the immediate challenges of early parenthood. Their steady presence lays the foundation for a more confident, relaxed, and connected family life. As the late anthropologist Dana Raphael once noted, the very act of being there is what makes all the difference.

Embracing the help of a postpartum doula is an investment in both your well-being and your journey as a new mother - a gentle reminder that you’re not alone in this beautiful, challenging transition.

If you’re looking for experienced, compassionate support in Houston or the San Antonio–New Braunfels area, our dedicated team of postpartum doulas is here for you. Let our caring professionals help you feel more confident, supported, and cared for in your postpartum journey. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help!

How Long Should I Breastfeed? Evidence-Based Advice & Your Breastfeeding Goals

What the Experts Recommend

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) advises mothers to breastfeed for at least 12 months or longer if both mother and baby wish to continue. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the World Health Organization (WHO) recommend breastfeeding for up to two years or beyond. These guidelines highlight the continued benefits breast milk provides, even as your baby grows into toddlerhood.

Your Choice, Your Journey

Ultimately, how long you breastfeed is a deeply personal decision. As long as both you and your baby are happy and thriving, there is no "right" or "wrong" duration. Some mothers breastfeed for a few weeks or months, while others continue for several years.

Remember: every drop of breast milk is liquid gold for your baby! Whether you breastfeed for days, weeks, months, or years, you're giving your little one an amazing gift.

The Power of Breast Milk

Breast milk is nothing short of remarkable– it's packed with essential nutrients, antibodies, and live cells that support your baby's developing immune system. Would you believe that just one teaspoon of breast milk contains over three million germ-fighting cells? This living substance helps protect your baby from infections and illnesses while promoting optimal development in ways that cannot be replicated.

Benefits That Last a Lifetime

In my years supporting breastfeeding mothers, I've witnessed how special the breastfeeding relationship truly is. The list of benefits is evergrowing:

For Your Baby:

• Stronger immunity – fewer ear infections, respiratory illnesses, and digestive issues
• Enhanced brain development through specialized fatty acids found only in breast milk
• Reduced risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome)
• Lower likelihood of developing childhood obesity, diabetes, asthma, and allergies
• Custom-made nutrition that adjusts to your baby's changing needs

For You:

• Faster postpartum recovery as breastfeeding helps your uterus contract
• Natural calorie burn that can support postpartum weight management
• Decreased risk of breast and ovarian cancer
• Powerful bonding experience through the release of oxytocin (the "love hormone")
• Convenience and cost savings – can save you up to $3,000 in formula costs!

Navigating Challenges

The breastfeeding journey isn't always peaches and rainbows. Many mothers face challenges like painful latching, milk supply concerns, or returning to work. If you encounter obstacles, remember that support is available through lactation consultants, breastfeeding support groups, and healthcare providers. Sometimes a small adjustment can make all the difference.

Remember, Mama

Your breastfeeding journey is just that – yours. Whether you breastfeed for three days, three months, or three years, what matters most is that you're making informed choices that work for you and your baby. Trust your instincts, seek support when needed, and be gentle with yourself along the way.

Remember this truth: you are enough, and you're doing an amazing job! 💙

Need personalized support with breastfeeding? Don't hesitate to reach out – I'm here to help you navigate this beautiful, challenging, rewarding journey. If you'd like my free guide for writing out your breastfeeding goals, click here.

The Breastfeeding Teammate: A Dad's Guide to Supporting Mom and Bonding with Baby

Let's explore some meaningful ways dads can become essential partners in the breastfeeding experience.

Get Educated (Without Being Told To)

Nothing makes a nursing mom feel more supported than a partner who takes initiative to understand breastfeeding! Taking a class together before baby arrives shows you're in this as a team. Even if baby is already here, watching a few YouTube videos or reading articles about common challenges can transform a dad into a breastfeeding ally when he suggests, "Maybe try the football hold?" during a difficult latch.

Master the Art of Silent Support

There's something magical about a partner who can deliver a fresh water bottle, place a snack within reach, and adjust the nursing pillow – all without being asked and sometimes without saying a word. This kind of intuitive support during those long feeding sessions is worth its weight in gold!

Setting up a "nursing station" for nighttime feeds with everything mom might need – phone charger, remote, burp cloths, and a water bottle – demonstrates thoughtful care that makes breastfeeding sessions more comfortable.

Take Charge of Diaper Duty

Nothing says "I've got your back" like a partner who automatically handles the diaper change before or after a feeding. This simple act gives mom a chance to use the bathroom, stretch, or just breathe for a minute between feeds.

Plus, diaper time is prime dad-baby bonding time – those moments of eye contact, silly faces, and baby giggles create a special connection that's all their own.

Discover Your Baby-Soothing Superpower

Every dad develops their own unique baby-calming technique. It might be a specific swaying-bouncing combo that soothes when nothing else works – a special "daddy dance" that becomes their signature move.

Whether it's a particular way of humming, a specific walking pattern around the house, or mastering the perfect swaddle, finding that special soothing technique gives dad a way to say, "I've got this" when mom needs a break.

Protect the Breastfeeding Space

One of the most supportive things a partner can do is run interference with well-meaning but overwhelming visitors. Becoming the gatekeeper, politely limiting visit times, and creating a judgment-free zone for breastfeeding makes a huge difference.

When relatives start with the "are you sure the baby's getting enough?" questions, a supportive partner can smoothly change the subject and later reassure mom that she's doing great. That kind of protective energy boosts a mother's confidence immensely.

Embrace the Skin-to-Skin Magic

There's something incredibly powerful about a father holding their baby against their chest. The little one melts into dad's warmth, nurturing a connection that deepens with every cuddle.

This isn't just beautiful to watch – it's science-backed bonding that helps regulate baby's temperature and heart rate while releasing those feel-good hormones for dad too. Plus, it gives mom's arms a much-needed break!

Step Up as the Household CEO

Nothing says "I support your breastfeeding journey" like a partner who makes sure everything else is running smoothly. Whether it's handling the grocery shopping, keeping up with laundry (those burp cloths multiply quickly!), or making sure mom's favorite nursing-friendly meals are prepped, these acts of service speak volumes.

Even something as simple as morning coffee duty can feel like the greatest act of love when handed to a mom after a long night of feeds.

Be the Emotional Anchor

Breastfeeding can be an emotional rollercoaster. There are days when a mother might feel more like a milk-truck than a person. Having a partner who checks in on mental health, celebrates the small wins, and offers reassurance during tough moments makes all the difference.

Sometimes support is as simple as saying, "You're doing an amazing job, babe" or "What can I help you with right now?" These moments of connection remind mom she's not alone on this journey.

Find Your Own Special Thing

"Daddy bath time" can become a special ritual each evening – playing music, making silly shampoo hairstyles, and having your own little party. These moments create something the baby looks forward to every day.

Whether it's bath time, a morning walk, reading time, or baby massage, having a special activity that's "dad's thing" creates beautiful bonding moments outside of feeding times.

Remember: It's Quality, Not Quantity

Dads sometimes worry they're missing out on bonding because they're not the ones breastfeeding. But the truth is, deeply engaged moments matter more than feeding time tallies. Some of the strongest dad-baby bonds come from fathers who might spend less time with their babies but are fully present when they're together.

The partnership approach to breastfeeding creates a richer experience for everyone involved. Not only does it help mothers breastfeed longer and more successfully, but it also gives partners and babies a beautiful foundation for their relationship.

Adjusting to Life with a Newborn: 5 Doula Tips for New Moms

Bringing home a new baby is a beautiful, transformative experience, but it can also be overwhelming. As you navigate this new chapter, remember that it’s okay to ask for help and take time for yourself. Here are five expert doula tips to help you adjust to life with your newborn while maintaining your well-being and sense of self.

1. Don’t Lose Yourself: Prioritize Self-Care

Your identity doesn’t disappear the moment you become a mother. As your priorities shift, it’s crucial to carve out moments for yourself. Practicing self-care early on can make a big difference. This can mean stepping outside for a few minutes and feeling the sunlight on your skin or soaking in a hot bath to relax and recharge. Catching up with a girlfriend over the phone can also do wonders for your mental health. Remember, you are still you, mama – and nurturing yourself allows you to better care for your little one.

2. Accept Help When It’s Offered

I can still remember vividly the times I turned down help when it was offered. If I could go back, I definitely would have accepted it. Instead of feeling ashamed about the state of my kitchen, I would have felt grateful for the person willing to lend a hand. It’s hard in the moment, but accepting help doesn’t make you weak – it shows strength in allowing others to support you. Trust me, you’ll feel so much better in the long run if accept the help when it's offered.

3. Start a Gratitude Journal

Beginning each day with a grateful heart helps shift your mindset, especially during challenging moments. Jotting down a few things you’re thankful for – whether it’s a hot cup of coffee, a sweet smile from your baby, or a supportive text from a friend – can help you find joy in the little things. A gratitude journal encourages a positive outlook, grounding you amidst the unpredictability of new motherhood.

4. Reach Out for Resources

You don’t have to figure everything out on your own. Connecting with other moms can provide valuable support and encouragement. Consider joining a local mommy group or attending a breastfeeding support group hosted by organizations like La Leche League. Some local churches also host supportive gatherings for new moms. Being around others who understand your journey can make a world of difference in feeling supported and less isolated.

5. Give Yourself Grace

This is all new territory, mama. There’s no manual for navigating motherhood, and it’s okay not to have all the answers. Be gentle with yourself and allow room for mistakes and learning curves. Lean on those around you when needed, and seek out support, whether it’s from family, friends, or professional resources.

You’re Not Alone

Adjusting to life with your new baby takes time, patience, and compassion. By practicing self-care, accepting help, focusing on gratitude, seeking community, and extending grace to yourself, you’re setting the foundation for a joyful and fulfilling motherhood journey.

Remember, you are not alone, and you are doing a great job. If you need additional support or guidance, reach out – we’re here to help.

How Our Postpartum Doulas Help New Parents Navigate the Newborn Stage

Gentle Support When You Need It Most

As postpartum doulas, we're here to help you find your rhythm as a new mama. We bring years of experience supporting families through the newborn stage, but we're not here to tell you how to parent – we're here to help you discover what works best for your unique family.

What Does Newborn Support Look Like?

Every family's needs are different, but here's a peek at how we can help make your transition smoother:

• Hands-on newborn care support: Whether you'd like guidance with diapering, swaddling, or even observing that first bath, we're here to help you feel confident in caring for your little one.

• Feeding support: From breastfeeding tips to bottle-feeding guidance, we've got your back.

• Sleep support: We'll help you implement calming bedtime routines and guide you in understanding your baby's natural patterns.

• Soothing techniques: Together, we'll discover what helps your baby feel most comfortable and content.

Creating Space for Rest and Bonding

One of the most beautiful parts of having postpartum support is that it gives you more space to focus on what matters most – bonding with your precious baby. We can:

• Ensure you're staying hydrated and nourished (hello, snack refills!)
• Help you recognize early feeding cues
• Share different comfort measures for both you and baby
• Create opportunities for you to rest when baby does

The Extra Support Your Family Deserves

Your postpartum doula is here for your entire family. We can:

• Help partners feel confident in their new role
• Share current safety guidelines with grandparents
• Make appropriate referrals to specialists when needed
• Provide a listening ear as you process your birth experience

Ready to Learn More?

Remember, mama, navigating the newborn stage shouldn't feel overwhelming or lonely. Having a postpartum doula means having someone in your corner who understands this journey and is dedicated to supporting your family's unique needs.

Ready to learn more about how postpartum support could help your family navigate the newborn stage? Let's chat! We serve families in the Houston and San Antonio-New Braunfels areas, and we'd love to help you create a postpartum plan that feels just right for you.

Why Your Baby's First Feeding Assessment Matters

The First 72 Hours: Setting You Up for Success

Those first three days postpartum are golden for establishing breastfeeding. Your body is producing nutrient-rich colostrum, and your baby is learning how to coordinate sucking, swallowing, and breathing. This is why I offer home visits in the New Braunfels-San Marcos area – because I believe every mama deserves support right where she's most comfortable.

During these early assessments, we look at:

• How your little one latches and transfers milk
• Any signs of oral restrictions that might affect feeding
• Your comfort level during feeds
• Baby's positioning and overall body tension
• Signs that baby is getting enough milk

A Holistic Approach to Oral Ties

One topic that often comes up during feeding assessments is oral ties (lip, tongue, etc.). While these can certainly impact feeding, I believe in taking a thorough, holistic approach before considering any interventions.

When assessing oral function, we look at:

• Can baby form an effective seal?
• How's their range of motion?
• Are they transferring milk well?
• Is feeding comfortable for you?

Sometimes, what looks like a tie might just need support from other modalities. This is where a team approach can be incredibly beneficial.

Your Support Team

There are several wonderful professionals who can support your feeding journey:

• IBCLCs (International Board-Certified Lactation Consultants): Expert breastfeeding support and in-depth feeding assessments
• Bodywork Specialists: Chiropractors, craniosacral therapists, and other specialists who help with body tension and positioning
• Feeding Therapists: Occupational therapists and speech-language pathologists specializing in oral function and feeding skills

Virtual Support When You Need It 

Can't make it to an in-person assessment? I offer virtual support through I Help Moms at just $1.25 per minute. It's perfect for troubleshooting specific challenges, getting quick tips about positioning, or discussing sleep concerns. Sometimes a quick video call is all you need to get back on track! Click here  for my coaching link. 

Ready for In-home Lactation Support?

Visit my website's lactation support tab to learn more about my home services in the New Braunfels-San Marcos area. Whether you need an in-person assessment or prefer virtual support, I'm here to help you and your little one thrive on your feeding journey.

If you're looking for postpartum doula support, my team serves both Houston and the San Antonio-New Braunfels area to help you feel supported in the early weeks with your newborn.

Remember, mama – getting support early can make all the difference. You don't have to figure this out alone!